After a loss, it is critical to embrace rest. It is one of those “Let go or be dragged” moments. You either rest by choice, or rest out of necessity. Why is rest so important? Grief depletes us. It is a special cocktail of stress, sadness, and shock.
If you needed a reminder to replenish your tank today. Here it is.
Rest but never quit. Even the sun has a sinking spell each evening. But it always rises the next morning.
Rest doesn’t always need to be laying down and taking a nap (although that is always an excellent choice). Here are a few ways to incorporate rest into your days:
- Move plans to an hour later in the day and take the morning to have a coffee or tea and journal.
- During a lunch break, or around the middle of the day, set a reminder and take 10 minutes to close your eyes and focus on your breath.
- Let yourself off the hook for some house work.
- Use a service like Instacart to do grocery pick-up
- Accept help from loved ones who offer to deliver groceries, cook meals, wash dishes, etc.
- Say ‘no’ to plans you aren’t excited about or don’t have energy for. You could even say something like “I would love to see you, but I really feel like I need to rest today. Can we move our plans to a different day?”
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